Honest Christmas Discussion
December 25th, 2017 at 1:14 PM ^
It can turn quickly without warning.
December 25th, 2017 at 1:14 PM ^
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December 25th, 2017 at 3:03 PM ^
and congrats on the pending TC move.
December 25th, 2017 at 9:17 PM ^
December 25th, 2017 at 2:18 PM ^
I drink more wine than usual and I sometimes pretend like I'm having a lot of fun. All in all, it's good to see everyone though, even if you don't really care to hear or see what bullshit or stupid shit they come up with. My old man is getting pretty old so when it gets around 9 or 10 pm, he likes to settle down. Well my 40 some year old brother in law wanted to start popping the bubble wrap packing on the floor about that time to show his 5 year old kid what happens and how much fun xmas can be. It was annoyingly loud hearing those sounds like fireworks on the 4th of July for those 20 or so seconds when we were all chilling and relaxing. I wanted to stand up and clock him in the ear but like I said earlier, more wine. Just keep refilling the glass and pretend its awesome.
December 25th, 2017 at 2:50 PM ^
P.S. My father had been sober for 6 years now. Our relationship is a work in progress. Takes a lot of effort for me to even send a “merry Christmas dad” text.
December 25th, 2017 at 3:14 PM ^
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December 25th, 2017 at 3:56 PM ^
Sounds like another WD fake account.
December 25th, 2017 at 2:51 PM ^
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December 25th, 2017 at 3:08 PM ^
there's a reason my family lives in Michigan and I'm in North Carolina thnking that I'm too close and need to move further away...
A quick phone call to say "I love you mom" and that's it. No annoying siblings.
December 25th, 2017 at 3:16 PM ^
December 25th, 2017 at 3:24 PM ^
My wife's sister is literally crazy. If she doesn't get her way, she doesn't let her mom see her toddler. Since Grandma doesn't want to lose access to her grandchild, she goes along with whatever dear 'ol sis wants and says. Often to the detriment of my wife's well being. Holidays are a freaking balst around them.
December 25th, 2017 at 3:25 PM ^
December 25th, 2017 at 3:32 PM ^
December 25th, 2017 at 3:36 PM ^
This thread sucks.
December 25th, 2017 at 4:09 PM ^
No grandparents, drunk uncles, etc. We see them on other days. Doesn't make us very popular, but it is so much more relaxing and we spend a lot of one on one time enjoying each other's company.
December 25th, 2017 at 4:24 PM ^
Merry Christmas
December 25th, 2017 at 4:22 PM ^
Love and adore 'em anyway. Do your best. Breathe deeply. Move on. Make plans. Put space between you and the bad guys. Make long to-do lists that make you happy.
December 25th, 2017 at 4:26 PM ^
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December 25th, 2017 at 6:02 PM ^
Now, when I was a kid and my cousins were gathered, it was far more contentious. They were smart, good looking, and fairly well off financially. It became a competition to see who had the more successful kids. Let me be clear, I was/still am a loser, so my cousins were always praised and I sat in the corner picking my nose. As I got older, I started to care less about what they thought of me and I don’t travel back to Michigan for Christmas. Moving to Florida, getting my parents to move to Florida, and having a big Christmas celebration at my house is helpful because I can always find something to do/clean if someone gets on my nerves. I’m not sure this is helpful advice to anyone, but it works for me.
December 25th, 2017 at 6:09 PM ^
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December 25th, 2017 at 9:19 PM ^
I’ve learned to downplay it, never discuss money, and simply congratulate him for the successes he wants to present in conversations. He came from a rough background, so I try to give him the benefit of the doubt. I try to take the high road, but I’d be lying if I said he didn’t irritate me.
December 25th, 2017 at 9:57 PM ^
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December 25th, 2017 at 11:13 PM ^
Very sad to read about so many folks with such challenging family dynamics. For me, the religious significance of Christmas is key, but in family discussions, I don't bring it up, unless with fellow believers who want to talk about spiritual things. (My 91 year old Dad always wants to hear about the sermon that day.)
I was together with a total of 17, and we all pretty much get along the whole time. It was striking how often alcohol messed up parties and get-togethers of people on the board. We had plenty of wine and beer, but I don't know if anyone had any hard alcohol. It isn't that any of us have a problem with it . . . it just isn't a big thing. Also, with my two sibs, we know each other's buttons, and don't feel the need to push them.
Seriously, is it that hard to avoid contentious topics? And to be honest, it is great to have a good enough relationship to be able to have spirited discussion on important topics of the day without degenerating into a brawl.
I'm thankful for good family relationships, and not to be alone. I'm glad to be able to celebrate Christmas, and eat a big delicious dinner, and exchange gifts, and then white elephant gifts, and sometimes to sing carols. This particular party was at my sister's and dad's place in Skokie / Evanston. They have a two flat with a furnished basement. This means that there are 3 floors, so teens can disappear downstairs or into a game room area, and Dad and I can go upstairs to chat in his place, so there is this joyful dance of conversations with different people at different times. I'm also blessed with several marvelous cooks, so there is a great assortment of appetizers and cheeses and wine and champagne and beer and meat and veggies and desserts. It all is wonderful.
December 26th, 2017 at 12:45 AM ^
December 26th, 2017 at 1:55 AM ^
For the first sevenish years of my marriage, my wife and I would travel to various family members homes and take part in holiday festivities which involved wild swings between Christmas being nothing more than a gift exchange (no decorations, no turkey, no tree FFS, etc) to World War 3 political discussions that completely ruined the day for everyone involved.
So roughly ten years ago we decided we'd had enough and we started hosting every year with two very clear rules in place for both sides of the family (roughly 35-40 people each year):
1 - It's Christmas - Behave, dress, and bring appropriate holiday faire (Do not get shit faced, dont wear your bathrobe/sweats, don't bring some crazy ass food you want everyone to experiment with)
2 - No politics. Period. Come prepared to engage, play games with your relatives, and stay off your fucking phone. You can abuse the shit out of it 364 other days in the year.
Since then, Christmas has been fantastic even with the relatives I normally can't stand. The day goes quick, the games are fun as hell, and everyone has a great time and the food is fabulous because we know what to expect. It's about the day and for 12-14 hours we can all get along and have a good time. Thank God for that....
December 26th, 2017 at 8:31 AM ^
What is wrong with you? Christmas is a joyful time were everyone gets along to sing some merry songs, tear through presents red and green, surely such a beautiful sight has never been seen. Now I ask you!
December 26th, 2017 at 10:00 AM ^
One cousin a nut on one extreme of the political spectrum home on leave from the Army.
Another cousin a nut on the other side home on Christmas break from college.
Both embody the "often wrong, seldom in doubt" mantra.
And they come prepared with their talking points and defenses.
I just sip my scotch.
December 26th, 2017 at 10:04 AM ^
It was a nice dose of reality to realize that I shouldn't complain so much.
My wife's family has killed any remaining Christmas spirit I had leftover from my youth. My wife has the kind of family that starts to hyperventilate if they go 2 fucking weeks without seeing each other. The worst part is that I actually like all of them, but I am so sick of seeing them all the time that they are making me hate all of them.
They got together last Saturday and Sunday....yes, they got together all weekend the fucking weekend before Christmas where we will all get together all weekend. Christmas starts with midnight mass at actual midnight.....i got home at 2am Christmas eve.
I then left my house at 1045 Christmas morning and I got home at 830pm. I am now at work.....exhausted, and my mother in law with a straight face has invited everyone over at 5pm straight from work because she wants our gift exchange seperate from the rest of the family.
So I am going to see all of these people again, straight from work, to eat and open gifts because we couldn't do it yestereday when we were all together for 6 hours. I told my wife that she has me until 630 pm and at that point I don't care what's happening, I am going home.
Then again, after reading some of these responses, I need to realize that it could all end or change very quickly. I have well wishes for a lot of you as I see that people have actual problems and that this is just BS that I need to lighten up about.
December 26th, 2017 at 11:39 AM ^
I think your grievances are legitimate. When my husband and I started dating, I was introduced to his friends. I liked all of them, but they spent a ridiculous amount of time together every weekend. We'd start drinking at a bar at 11 AM on Saturday and it would go until 2 or 3 AM, moving to someone's house or another bar, or several bars, throughout the day. After we got more serious, I just told him I can't spend 14 hours with the same people every Saturday. I need a break every now and then. Maybe you could figure out ways to take a break every now and then.
December 26th, 2017 at 10:23 AM ^
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December 26th, 2017 at 11:34 AM ^
Not looking forward to Christmas Day this year. I wasn't in a very Christmas mood (for a variety of reasons), and was NOT looking forward to the family gathering because of a couple of family members. They fall into the category of "pushy, egomanical drama queens," the kind you tolerate only with great patience, lots of liquor, and the ability to leave early.
But the lousy weather, complete with white-out snow squalls, forced them to stay on the western side of the state. The family gathering was full of celebration, laughs, a few games, lots o'food, and a lot less noise. Instead of being what I dreaded, it was actually nice.
So a Merry Christmas it was ... and thank you, Mother Nature!
December 26th, 2017 at 7:48 PM ^
Guess I'm lucky, i have great parents and in-laws. Full houses on xmas eve, xmas morning, and xmas night with 0 drama. It's just exhausting driving all over the place with a 2 and 4 year old with everyone in some stage of the cold from hell brought home from preschool by the 4 year old.