OT: Fuck Cancer

I'll keep him in my prayers. 

I pray that this surgery will grant you the time to make amends with your dad.  Life is too short to be at odds with people, especially your own flesh and blood.

Whatever you wanted to tell him but never had the courage to say, do it now. You'll never be able to live with yourself if you don't.

Prayers for your dad.

Truly hope the best for your father and your family.

And I don't care what "water is under the bridge" - go give your Dad a hug right now and tell him you love him.  Sometimes you gotta give the energy a jumpstart.  You wont regret it.

Just make sure that he knows you love him, regardless of his faults. That's really all a parent wants.

Stop being a pussy and go to his room and tell your dad you love him. I would give anything to be able to say that to my dad.

Also fuck cancer.

Your family will be in our prayers. Good luck with the surgery.

Positive thoughts my dude. 

Many know, I lost my wife 3 years ago, after a 6 year battle with cancer (she was diagnosed while pregnant with our youngest child).  My sister-in-law actually had surgery today to remove a tumor. 

I know nothing we can say can make it better, but thinking of you and your father tonight.  Sounds like your Dad is in good hands, hoping for the best.

Fuck cancer!

DB, unfortunately I have worn your shoes before you.

As always, this community is coming through with support and good advice.  The best of it... Don’t hesitate to say what you want to say, and sounds like your call was good. I know how powerful it would be if my son said those words to me.

Prayers to you and your family DB.  I hope you get the chance you are looking for. 

Just tell him you love him.

Some of us don't have another chance to do that.

Last time I saw my father alive a voice inside told me to go back & tell him.  I laughed it off.  He was dead two days later.

Lot of things more important than recruiting, talent development and the interesting progression of 18-21 year olds on football fields and basketball courts. Kind of makes me think even less of trolls.

A lot of perspective in your narrative.

Maybe that perspective is what we all need. God speed with your dad's surgery and your personal journey with him. 

You'd be surprised who can handle the toughest of obstacles...even the physically weak, frail, sick, and ill.  Being a tough cookie mentally/emotionally goes a long way.  Hoping this process tomorrow goes well enough that you can sit down in the near future and get some things off your chest.

Fuck you, cancer.

Prayers for you and your father.  300 miles is a pretty short distance, all things considered.  Make the trip while you still can.

Also, fuck cancer...

Thoughts and prayers are with you.  I lost my dad to cancer.  Make the most of every day you’ve got with him and share the love.

Cancer survivor here. What matters is to show up, in whatever format works, and to listen to the patient. Whatever happens next, you’ll always know you have them space. 

Talk to your dad or you will regret it.

Brother, I sincerely hope your Dad comes through with flying colors, and that you get that chance - and that you actually use it.

When I lost my Dad 30 years ago to this fucking disease, he was 3000 miles away in a California hospital. I was desperately trying to get a flight out there in time, but didn't make it. In the years since, I've wished thousands of times that I had been there at the end. Even if I had no magic words, even if I did nothing but be there and maybe hold his hand, it would have been ... something.

But it's simply not always possible to get there in time. Life isn't that convenient.

But one thing I console myself with: My Dad knew I loved him. I didn't get the chance to say so much more, but he knew that.

So for what it's worth, my best wishes go to your Dad, and to you. And I really hope you get that chance to say more.

My wife’s dad has stage 4 cancer right now and I lost my dad to cancer when I was young. Fuck Cancer is right. 
 

Prayers for you and your dad. 

A.L., praying for your dad.  please let us know how it goes this morning.  you know how to get hold of me if there is anything i can do, questions about next-steps, etc.

blessings,

xm

Prayers coming your way. Peace to you in this time and hang in there.....

I hope he makes it DB so you can see that mend through, but if for some reason he doesn't don't feel defeated.  Just the fact that you want to improve the relationship, is a big positive step.  Talk to him, he will hear you, even if it's his time to move on.  Thanks for sharing. As you can see, people do care.

My thoughts and prayers are with you. 

Stay strong, both for him and for yourself.  God be with you.

Prayers for you and your Dad. Especially this morning.

Take care of him and take care of yourself.

Lost my Dad without warning. If you can, just say all the good feelings you have toward him. I’d cut off fingers to say I love you once more. 
 

Sends prayers and good vibes toward him and the amazing staff at U if M.

Good luck and prayers for him and your family.  You have access to a great hospital and staff. Hope you have time to heal your relationships.  

Prayers for you and for your family, brother. I hope that everything winds up ok.
 

I’d certainly make the effort on your next day off to get up there and spend some time with him. You’ll feel an enormous weight come off of your shoulders if you clean the slate with him and give him a hug. 

Lost my dad several years ago, and my mom is in late stage lung cancer.  Do yourself a favor - call him this morning, again, to tell him you love him and that you look forward to speaking with him tomorrow to ask how he feels.  Don't mention what happened in the past, you already did that.

Good luck to him, to you, and to your family.

Fuck cancer to rat infested hell.

Hope the surgery goes better than you expect. Cancer does indeed suck. 

I’m with ya brother and feel your pain. My own dad has weeks/days left because a mole that went unchecked spread to his brain. He underwent brain surgery which was a success but now he has pneumonia and they found it in the lungs. Full flow oxygen and I myself am in Philly, 500 miles from him and pray he makes it till I get back Thursday. Your in my thoughts. 

As I type this I guess your Dad will be in surgery right now.  Here's hoping and praying for the best news you can give us later today.