OT: Fuck Cancer

over the past 20 years my mother has beat three different types of cancer, three different times - so just wanted to remind everyone that there is always hope

Sorry to hear that, I hope you get eniugh time with your Dad to get your relationship with him to the level you want

Hang in there man.  Sometimes those relationships are tough but trust me on this one - your Dad loves you.  Men just suck at this type of thing.  

As someone who just had a spouse battle through breast cancer this year, I understand what you’re going through. Praying for the surgery and that your dad has the strength to get through it. Once he gets through the other side of surgery, don’t put off having that conversation with him. 

Prayers to you and your father. I lost my mother at the age of 15 to brain cancer. My wife was just diagnosed 3 weeks ago with stage 4 colorectal cancer. She’s 25. She also starts chemo next week. I hope everything works out for you and your family. That’s one hell of a fight your pops has put up. Prayers going up for you. Fuck cancer. 

Said a prayer for your father and for your whole family. 

Fuck cancer indeed. Best of thoughts to your dad and your family...

It's never too late to work on your relationship so do the best you can.

In the last 2 weeks found out my uncle and my neighbor/high school classmate have cancer so yeah I'm with you. Fuck cancer. 

Praying for your father and your family. And that you have the opportunity to get things right

My brother beat stage 4 lung cancer.  If he can beat cancer, so can your dad!

Thoughts and prayers are with you and hoping your dad beats the hell out of this miserable rotten disease.  Do your best to speak or see your dad.  My dad died 6 years ago, I called him in hospital the day before he died, thankful that I did even it was to bust his balls.  Didn't know he would die that night.  

Family friend's 10 year old has cancer.  Son's HS team dedicated season to him and they won state championship.  Taking the trophy to his house for a photo.  Giving him a State Championship jacket.

I hate cancer. As a pastor, I've officiated at two funerals in the last couple weeks, both as a result of cancer. One was a 43 year old woman leaving behind a good man and also 3 girls, one each in high school, middle school and grade school. The other was an 86 year old woman. I don't care how old or how young you are, cancer is always a terrible, horrible scourge.

I will pray. Pray for you, and pray for your father. (What is his name? What kind of cancer? Are there other key family members who are being affected? Wife? Other children? Siblings?)

I generally try to avoid giving much advice when people have cancer. But here are 5 things which I trust you realize, and which I hope are obvious to every individual reading this thread.

1. Always take care of yourself physically, and encourage your loved ones to do the same thing. Don't put off diagnostic testing, and don't let your loved ones put it off either. Here are 3 examples. 1.  If you're around 50, get a colonoscopy. Colon cancer is very avoidable with this simple procedure. 2.  If you're a man, make sure the PSA test is part of annual blood work. Prostate cancer is detectable, and is also something that can be fixed if found early enough. 3.  If you're a woman, get a mammogram, and be aware enough of your body to detect breast cancer. I have had to deal with the aftermath of all three of these cancers in people I love. In two cases, I did funerals for someone I loved, cancer that would have been avoidable or treatable with early detection.
2. Something like this really sharpens your focus on what's really important in life. We spend so much time on so many things that don't matter, time that we'll never get back. I don't think too many of us will reach the end of our lives and say, "I wish I would have spent more time in the office," or "I wish I would have spent more time on mgoblog." Darker Blue, I know you're 300 miles away, but do your best to get to your dad now, while you know you can. Vacation days, personal days, time off without pay if need be. Go see your dad. You won't regret it. If you can't afford it, I'll gladly help support you going financially, (I'll give you $100,) and I know other mgobloggers will do the same.
3. The other thing related to this you have already alluded to. Your father's health has opened a window of time for you to talk to your dad and to begin reconciliation and healing. This is the major piece of advice I have for you. Don't wait to talk to your dad. Seize the moment and talk to him now. You're too busy? Bullshit. You have the opportunity, if you will only take it. Whatever you're busy with, NOTHING is more important than this right now. You need to talk to your dad, and tell him you love him and appreciate him and care for him. When he passes, that window of time has closed. I'm an old fart, and there's a song that encapsulates this called The Living Years. I regret that I didn't talk more to my mom, who passed at 67. I haven't made the same mistake with my dad, who is 93.
4. When that day comes, and it comes for all of us, bless your father by letting him go. At the end, you tell those you love that you love them, you shed some tears, and you let them go when they're ready to go. (Ultimately, people are going to go with or without your permission. However, this makes it a little bit easier, both for them and for you.)
5. Lastly, I don't know what you do or don't believe. But I'd encourage you to think about this. It is helpful to be at peace with the universe and your place in it. (Of course I'd be happy to dialogue with you about this, but that's for another time and place. I'll just say that all of us fail in many and various ways, and will continue to do so. Coming to understand this is the beginning of making peace with a Power greater than yourself.)

I lost my father and sister to cancer. You and your father have my prayers.

Royal Rife machine, ultra high doses of vitamin C intravenously, 350 mg CBD/100 mg THC daily, Gerson therapy, MMS (chlorine dioxide)

I wish your father the best through this.

And as a son with a dad that has been through a few major health scares, get in the car and be there tonight, regardless of the outcome.  Hopefully you get to give him a huge hug.  If not, there will be people that you will want to be around.

I'm going to give me dad a call right now.

Fuck cancer

Dude, my condolences. Fuck cancer.

I'll keep him in my prayers.

  I agree, FUCK CANCER.   My wife has stage 4 liver cancer and mets in her bones.  She has been off treatment for 3 months and the scans look good for now.  It's a long painful ride.

She is on so many prayers lists and IT HELPS.  Trust me

Lost my dad to cancer. He found out he had cancer 4 days before he died...so not the normal situation. I'll be praying for your father and your family.

I would be happy to pray for your dad, and your relationship with him as well. 

My dad’s 78th Birthday should have been today if it weren’t for a lethal bout with non-Hodgkin Lymphoma 22 years ago. Still miss him like crazy. F Cancer. 

Was in A2 last Monday for my wife’s 3-month post chemo check up. Blood work was great and 6-month CT scan scheduled in February to be sure she is still NED (no evidence of disease).

Make peace with your dad no matter what. Tell him you love him. You won’t regret it. 

I am praying you get more chances to talk.  
 

Talking to my mom has been a losing game for a long time as she usually tries to kick me out of the house.  Don’t give up.

best of luck to your dad and his caregivers.

As someone who has lived with the disease for 11 years and having a sister who had surgery today for the same, I can only reiterate what has been said multiple times. Thoughts and prayers being sent to you and your family.