OT: Snip Snip
On Friday, I have a preoperative appointment at the University of Michigan for my vasectomy. Soon I will officially be unable to produce little Brutuses for the rest of my existence. I always figured this would be a liberating experience, but as it turns out, as the date approaches, I am developing many fears and anxieties. Dr. Brutus has been very supportive and has assured me that she won't make me go through with it if I don't want to, but I know it's the right thing for our family. But that doesn't change the fact that destroying my evolutionary drive to pass on my DNA is beginning to feel like a big mistake. I think this might be what inmates on death row feel I the final weeks leading up to their execution.
My question for the board, particularly those who have had the snip: is there life after a vasectomy? Has anyone experienced some sort of buyer's remorse after taking that final step? I want to know that this is the right decision.
It’s no big deal and it has no effect on your sec life. It’s mucj easier for the man to have the procedure then the woman. Don’t sweat it
ex #1 basically badgered me into having the snip..... about 4 months later I found out she had a side show going on.... kicked her out and filed for divorce. The evil bitch was cheating on me all the while she was nagging me to have the beans snipped.
#1. Reversal surgery is highly successful in the first 10 years (so like a tattoo, it isn't permanent, although costly and involved to reverse)
#2. One relationship post snip (and post divorce) blew up because of it. She wanted kids of her own, and who could blame her?
#3. I was blessed to have two boys prior to getting deactivated, so not being able to make more kids wasn't a factor.
Overall, it has been highly liberating, not ever having to worry about birth control.
a bag of frozen peas will be your friend. also, during the healing process you will go to scratch and itch out of reaction, like you've done 1,000,000 in your lifetime... and quite possibly shit your pants. this itch is a healing incision not a run of the mill itch that needs scratching.
Went thru it 4 years ago, no big deal. Like the others have said, have it done on a Friday and spend the weekend with a bag of frozen peas watching sports. Not much different than most weekends minus the peas and also the fact that your laziness won't bother your wife for once. And agree with what others have said, don't push it trying to get back to work. I ended up taking an unplanned extra day off after going back too early, that was the only point in time I really was uncomfortable. Give it 3 or 4 days and you'll be fine.
Really? An existential crisis because you're getting a vasectomy?
This is an incredibly relevant thread for my family. My husband and I were just talking about this last night. 2 out of 3 of my deliveries were traumatic and life threatening. We decided to go for one more and surprise, we have twins arriving in September, making this a high risk pregnancy and delivery. I think we’re pretty set on me having a tubal ligation if we go the c-section route, but I’d also rather avoid a c-section if possible so now we’re talking about a vasectomy as well. I told my husband to check out this thread.
The best thing about it is your wife is more relaxed when you're getting busy because she knows she's not getting pregnant. You're sore for a day. It's worth it on so many levels. 3 boys and no remorse over no more or no daughter to take care of me when I'm an old codger.
March 26th, 2019 at 10:28 AM ^
Brutus, my advice is to get it done. Got the snip 4 years ago and besides the initial discomfort I haven't regretted it at all. In fact, it's been great!
The hardest part for me was dealing with the reality that I was taking into my own hands something that, I believe, is part of God's good design. Once I embraced his desire for my free will, I was good to go.
For the record, the effects on our sex life have been only positive.
Good luck Brutus!
March 26th, 2019 at 11:05 AM ^
Had it done, wife still didn't completely trust it - so still had to use a condom :-(
Had it done almost 5 years ago. It was a really uncomfortable process... the shot was the worst part. And I felt really hot the whole time. My scrotum was black for a few days after. What the hell did he do to it?!?! My wife gave me zero sympathy. I was just careful about picking up my kids (2) and not doing it for a couple days.
I make this sound like a bad process but it wasn't. I was eager to have it done and I'm very glad I did it. Would NEVER do a reversal. No issues with respect to the aftermath and sexual life. Just make sure you go in to get tested AS INSTRUCTED! The procedure I underwent meant removing a piece of tubing, sealing those edges, and then there is a tiny chance those ends would ever meet and grow back together. If you have a choice, do it this way.
My favorite part? Going back in for my follow-up "testing" appointment, and rushing to hand over a rolled up lunch bag to the hot, 20-something assistant, inside of which contained a sample cup of -- hopefully -- DNA-less spunk. You only have 30-minutes to bring the sample to the office.
I know what I just did. The assistant knows what I just did. I know that the assistant knows. Hell, even the elderly woman at the appointment desk knows what I just did. Look back at em all with pride, and just say, "Yeah. That's right..."
Regardless, it's a great decision to make and I never looked back.
"You know it is the right thing to do so quit your whining." Words my father told me before I had my procedure.
March 27th, 2019 at 10:34 AM ^
It’s worth it. Two words: Skeet. Skeet.