OT: Former NFL Player Phillip Buchanon - "Motherly Love"
Maybe a Debbie Downer for a Friday - but this story popped up for me first thing this morning...and yes:
The stories of athletes spending their money have been told before
Definitely true - but Buchanon's story was particularly poignant for me...especially this:
Buchanon says his mother told him he owed her $1 million for raising him. "Well, that was news to me," wrote Buchanon, who played 10 NFL seasons for five teams. "If my mother taught me anything, it's that this is the most desperate demand that a parent can make on a child. The covenant of having a child is simply that you give your child everything possible, and they owe you nothing beyond a normal amount of love and respect. There is no financial arrangement."
As a father of 5 (and 1 on the way), I just can't conceive of seeing your children in this way.
Very sad.
Dude, careful. You might have just cost yourself $6 million.
I can't even conceive my parents asking such of me, whether I had the means or not.
This is relatively poignant for me:
he warned that "'fun friends' and family will view you as an endless ATM
I suppose it's not surprising, but it is sad.
April 10th, 2015 at 11:21 AM ^
don't have nearly the $$ of an NFL player - but I am moderately successful. Many others in my family are not - primarily because of their own choices. I am constantly helping with "loans" that never get repaid, but continuing to help because: FAMILY.
I joke about being "The First National Bank of BOliver" - but this just takes it to another level.
It was a weird day that at 26ish years old with young children, I had to lend my mother $2000. She paid it all back, but it's pretty surreal to find out you're basically the most responsible person in your family when you're only a few years removed from being blackout drunk every weekend...
April 10th, 2015 at 11:36 AM ^
I believe the EPA estimates a human life around $7 mil when doing cost benefit analysis for certain pollutant thresholds. So shes giving him one hell of a deal.
/s
Greed knows no limits. Hard to imagine it breaking through the parent/child love, but it does.
April 10th, 2015 at 11:23 AM ^
is in the OP my man...but here you go: Link
April 10th, 2015 at 10:02 AM ^
I can't imagine ever expecting such a thing from either of my girls. I really hope that attitude wouldn't change if they ever do make a crazy amount of money in the future. While this is disturbing, I also hate when adult children think their parents owe them something. I guess the moral is that selfish people are selfish. I pray that more people would put the needs of others, especially their family, over their own.
April 10th, 2015 at 10:24 AM ^
Thanks boliver46 for sticking it to the neo-malthusians.
April 10th, 2015 at 11:24 AM ^
Only on MGoBlog would an awesome comment like this surface...haha
April 10th, 2015 at 10:32 AM ^
April 10th, 2015 at 10:52 AM ^
Having children changed my outlook on life. It helped me learn to care about others more than myself. It opened up my heart. We expect that it will have the same effect with others, but sadly that isn't always the case.
As much as having my children impacted me, it had no such effect on their mother. To this day she is self-absorbed, critical, childish and greedy. In her case, I think it is a matter of mental health and substance abuse problems as well as genetics and her own abusive parents. For some of that I can blame her. For much, it was the hand she was dealt.
I have no idea what made Mr. Buchanon's mother so greedy. Greed, however, stopped being a surprise to me a long time ago.
April 10th, 2015 at 11:16 AM ^
Jack Johnson thinks this dude got off easy.
April 10th, 2015 at 11:24 AM ^
that's a Fcked up story too!
April 10th, 2015 at 11:30 AM ^
April 10th, 2015 at 12:01 PM ^
My situation is that of a blended family. I had 3 children with my first wife, and then got divorced (don't get me started!).
I met my now fiance' who has 2 children of her own. We both like large families, and really wanted to share something special together that was "ours" - hence #6.
I used to joke about wanting to "make my own football team"...that dream may have to die unless I decide to play 7 on 7. LOL
Also - how old are you? Just curious as I know many younger people may not be child-inclined...
April 10th, 2015 at 11:50 AM ^
April 10th, 2015 at 11:50 AM ^
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April 10th, 2015 at 11:56 AM ^
I get the point you were trying to make. However, greed is in all classes of society. There are a lot of very wealthy people who are greedy as well as middle class people who are just as greedy.
April 10th, 2015 at 12:06 PM ^
Everything has to be politically correct duh.....
April 10th, 2015 at 12:11 PM ^
I am probably greedy like most people. Just not as greedy as this woman. I did not grow up in deprivation that is for sure.
April 10th, 2015 at 12:36 PM ^
As a parent and human, I can say that children are born greedy. All humans have a natural state of greed, hate and delusion. If there's a "deprivation," it is sometimes simply being in a family that nurtures rather than admonishes against greed. I'm optimistic, however, that people can and do choose to replace greed with generosity; hate with love; delusion with enlightenment. And I think this has very little to do with economic wealth. I've heard that charities going door-to-door tend to do better in poor neighborhoods than gated communities.
with Phillipp. Some people are not meant to be parents. Society most often thinks of men when these issues are raised, but there are plenty of terrible mothers out there. I know that firsthand.
Fortunately, my mother was a nonexistent/selfish type and not the abuser type. I also had a wonderful father and grandfather to raise me.Many are not so lucky.
"Some people are not meant to be parents" will be the title of my book some day. I work in pediatrics and it would amaze you some of the reasons that people will have children that involve only themselves and not the child. I always feel awful for these kids because they are usually more adult than their parents and aren't getting the appropriate parental guidance that many of us took for granted (and probably didn't like at the time).